So let me set the record straight, first-time buyers: buying a home is no day at the beach. Here's what you need to know:
There is pain in every transaction. This is true whether the pain is in the negotiating or in the physical inspection or in getting the loan. There are lots and lots of moving parts to a real estate transaction. If you're a buyer, no matter what kind of offer you make, there will be a time when things don't go your way. And opening escrow can be just the beginning of the story. But if you stay focused on the end result -- how you're going to be living in the house -- it will be a little more bearable.
All your friends and family will tell you a horror story and likely try to talk you out of buying. Your friends and family are well-meaning, especially in this economic environment, but they can't live your life for you. I myself had such a first-time buyer horror story that I became a Realtor so nobody else would go through what I did. Let's talk about your fears.
I have no magic that I can use that will counter-act a seller's mental illness. A seller can be crazy as a bedbug and still have a very nice house to sell. If it seems they are being mean and recalcitrant, they probably are. Their emotions are running very high, too. We just need to get through this; you won't remember their name in six months.
Sometimes it's not meant to be. Don't give up even if you have to cancel a transaction; the right house is out there for you. Educate yourself about the process, be prepared and you'll find it.
